Stevethehammer
9:31 Fri Jan 1
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The way I see it, the bond me and my boy had over West ham was my connection with him, of course we connect with other things such as books, games, films and music but I would always make the effort to take him to matches etc and I would sometimes even just turn up on the Saturday not even tell him we were going and just surprise him with it.
Now if I was a completely absent father and this guy has come in and been there for my son all whilst I've fucked off and not cared but it's couldn't be further from the truth.
What gets me is his mum has sat there let this guy influence my son and not once thought hang on.. He's been West ham ever since he was born, why the sudden change, have a little word with him and say, come on son, your West ham, dad and you have that. Apparently there's been no influence from the arsenal supporting step dad.. Do me a favour.
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Jasnik
4:53 Fri Jan 1
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Although I am west ham through and through. I think the the poster with the girls sums it up. If they don't care it really doesn't matter as long as you can communicate with them. Me and my dad had west ham nothing else. So I would rather talk sbout why thy support a shit team than not to talk to them at all.
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Manuel
4:20 Fri Jan 1
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I can honestly say that it wouldn't bother me. I say let them choose who they want to support, not have a club forced upon them. Think the father and son, family tradition thing, belongs a bit to a bygone era now, and besides there are way more important things to worry about these days. Add to that going West Ham (home games) and modern day football is shit now anyway.
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bruuuno
3:46 Fri Jan 1
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Hallerinthemorning 1:41 Fri Jan 1
Re: Your Kids supporting West ham
Good post. I wouldn’t mind if my son supported a local team but if he wanted to follow the arsenal I would have a word and explain that it’s about family not just football.
Steve, I mean this with the best intentions but are you sure you’ve not behaved like a cunt to her? or could she have told him some bullshitt to poison his mind? Hell hath no fury after all..
I have a mate who is a charlton fan because his dad left his mum and his dad was whu, so he supported them gaylords to piss him off. If you have done her bad then try and deal with it and the youngun may change attitudes
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Worst Case Ontario
3:10 Fri Jan 1
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Steve-
FWIW pal, I think you're right and in the right here. It's a scummy way to try to edge you out.
If you want my advice, don't try to force West Ham on your boy. Maybe keep taking him to matches, or watch matches with him, and talk to him about why you think West Ham is important to you. But even if he does end up staying Arsenal, in the long run he'll come to realize what a good and bigger man his Dad always was, and in that more important way he'll want to be like you.
At least this is my approach with my boy, soon to be 8, who says he is Wolves (admittedly not because of anyone else, but "because they're wolves").
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White Pony
3:05 Fri Jan 1
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I have two daughters and neither of them give a flying fuck about either football or West Ham. It’s quite a leveller actually; I’ll be ranting about something related to out most recent game and it will be met with enormous amounts of indifference. Reminds me that in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t fucking matter.
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arsegrapes
2:57 Fri Jan 1
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My dad wasn't interested in football and I went with my brother, was fortunate that my missus hates football and I told my two sons some old stories about going, I never took them they went on their own, they went with mates to Chelsea and Arsenal, but made no difference. They ended up getting season tickets and taking me. They do question why I had to support West Ham instead of a team that wins something. I do feel guilty they've never seen us win anything, playoff final nearest.
Don't allienate your ex missus by having it with her new bloke, she will make it difficult seeing your kid, cancelling last minute and so on, don't rise to the bait. Just let your son decide, we're all different.
Sorry arsene
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Mad Dog
2:25 Fri Jan 1
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Wife was a sp*rs fan
She was tod in no uncertain terms that when we had kids that she was not allowed to encourage them to support her mob. Of I had to suffer, so will they. I refused to be responsible for more sp*rs fans in the world
Irony is my son badgered her so much, the wife switched to west ham. He's a good boy my eldest.
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Stowie.40
2:15 Fri Jan 1
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Must admit I’d be doing my bollocks as well if this was me. Probably insufficient but your ex should see it from your side, My missus laughs when I say it’s my worst nightmare my 2 toddlers not supporting west ham.
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gph
2:07 Fri Jan 1
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Ron's past pedantry is demanding revenge.
I shall ignore its demands.
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Ronald_antly
1:55 Fri Jan 1
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My son was drawn to Arsenal, but that was back in the Thierry Henry days when they were hoovering up trophies.
The positive for you here is that Arsenal are really no better than us, so as long as you get to take him to at least as many West Ham games as he goes to Arsenal, and he has a good time (caveat below), then you've got a decent chance of keeping him on the 'straight and narrow'.
The caveat is the 'good time' aspect. He may enjoy you're company, but if Moyes continues to set up so negatively, then he may weary of watching West Ham.
So, if you feel like threatening someone (as Haller suggests) perhaps Moysie needs a 'pep talk'.
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Hallerinthemorning
1:41 Fri Jan 1
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This thread has descended into everyone telling you how West ham they are or their kids are. I will remain focused on the question or problem you have.
Your missus is loving life and has no connection to the club or what it means to you. She also has no respect for you anymore despite her saying she does or cos you are the kids father. The new blow loves Arsenal as much as you love West Ham and so will love converting your kids and will also tell his friends down the booze that he has done so. It will make his day.
So genuinely and being real, this is a nightmare situation.. tale the kid/(s) aside and tell him/her/they how much it means to you and that even though you are not around as much as you used to be, you will always be there, always love them and need them as much as they need you. Tell them that West Ham was something you always hoped to bond over even when you are not around as much you wont to be..tell them by them not supporting west ham, you feel like you are losing them a little and that it really hurts you.
I did this and it worked. We had a good chat about all sorts of family related things with west ham being the least important but we never forgot the chat and they are west ham to this day.
I also had to deal with the new man which unfortunately you may have to also. You take him aside one to one and you either batter the fuck out of him or threaten to whichever will have effect..you tell him that you have no issue with him rattling your ex missus and wish them all the best but if he comes between you and your kids, you will kill him.
Dont listen to people saying it's the kids choice. It is not. Its family. Its loyalty.
Sorry to Arsene york cunt. Your story touched me also.
Good luck to you all and happy new year
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gph
1:36 Fri Jan 1
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Last time I went away to Sheffield Wednesday, there was a Hammer on the bus whose kid was covered head to toe in Wednesday gear.
At the time, I felt sorry for the bloke, but now he's probably getting his revenge...
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bruuuno
1:12 Fri Jan 1
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I’d be fucking fuming Steve, and I’m a very laid back person
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Rusta
1:06 Fri Jan 1
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I’ve got 3 boys aged 10,8 & 6 and they all West ham mad I’ve made sure of that taking them to games and the rest.
I actually do think this is a big deal, my old man took me to West ham and it was and is still great for our bond.
I think a son should support the same team as there dad if the dad is proper into his football not some plastic mug..
If for some reason I was in the situation of having another blokes kid in the house I’d encourage him to follow his dads team cos that’s what’s right
So yes I’d be proper pissed off and the new bloke is a cnut
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Side of Ham
12:56 Fri Jan 1
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Briano, so at 18 he declares himself a Spurs supporter and has a sex change....
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DagenhamDave
12:44 Fri Jan 1
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I wouldn't worry about it. Your kid probably isn't a glory hunter he just prefers the new bloke to you.
HTH
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Briano
12:32 Fri Jan 1
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I told my boy if he supported any other team his winky would fall off
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Glenn Rodent
11:30 Thu Dec 31
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Arsene, sorry for your loss pal.
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Glenn Rodent
11:29 Thu Dec 31
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Stevethehammer 3:21 Thu Dec 31
I totally get your annoyance and feel for you mate.
But you kicking off about it will just be like a little victory for your ex and her cunt of a boyfriend. Don't give them the satisfaction.
With your boy being only 9, it must be a tough deal for him with his Mum and Dad not being together and will be even tougher if he feels you and his Mum are at each others throats.
My advice to you is to put everything into building a great father / son relationship with your boy. Stick your fingers up to your ex and her boyfriend by just being a great Dad and just putting all your efforts and energy into that.
Football comes secondary but is still a nice thing to share with your boy even if he doesn't follow West Ham.
Take him to West Ham games and maybe take him to Arsenal games when we are away. Just try and have that football thing with each other. Maybe the odd England game too.
Build that relationship and then his happiness of you enjoying what he likes will let your boy see you are a top Dad. You never know, he may even change his mind and be a Hammer again.
Don't force it, just be there for him and soon he will realise even more than what he does already that he has the best Dad. Nothing can ever take away the fact that you are his Dad.
So just enjoy and appreciate that and I'm sure he will too. Everything else will then just fall into place.
All the best mate.
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michael
11:29 Thu Dec 31
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Arsene so sorry for your loss
I was born in Leyton
Irish parents so no one to push me to support anyone
Me and one of my mates got hold of them crappy silk scarves in the seventies
I took the West Ham one he took the arsenal one
My boys are West Ham mad got them tickets in the chicken run when they were born
Steve at the end of the day fuck the football just be a good dad as you can be Gluck
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